Ungratefullnes

Now a days ,from every side ,we only find one thing,that is depression or anxiety.this is a story of every home.husband,wife,children all have depression.in fact women are becoming more victim to this disease than men.

We are living in a technology age with all types of facilities.but still dissatisfied with our lives.women in early times did not have any modern days facilities.they remained busy with their domestic work whole day.cooking ,bathing,washing clothes were big issues those days.imagine how hard there life was.if peace lies in such technologies,then why are we all dissatisfied with our lives the reason is facilities or technologies do not bring us peace.we are dissatisfied because of two reasons 1 we go far away from our religion 2we women are more ungrateful to our husbands .we made our life depressed with our own hands.

Allah says,and whoever turns away from my remembrance to him there will be a depressed life   Al Quran 20 124

According to this verse,who is responsible.if we want peace in life ,remember,Allah says,peace of heart is in rememberance of Allah. Quran

And prophet said,I severely dislike that woman who puts her cloak on and leaves the home in order to complain about her husband.tabrani

So to make a life peaceful woman must develop two qualities in her self .first,she should devoted herself completely to her creator (Allah) and second she becomes grateful towards her husband.these are the two powerful weapons that makes our life peaceful and make our homes abode of peaceful paradise.

First of all,we should always remember that no one have a completely blissful life without hardships.but Allah does not burden a soul greater than it can bear.we should never loose our heart.this world is test for us and Allah will test us through different things as is clearly mentioned in Quran.so it is our duty to stand firm in every situation as our mothers hajar a.s,Aisha r.a,Marium a.s,aasiya wife of phaeroh,Zainab ul Ghazali did.remember the life of hajar a.s,how she sacrificed her every desire for the sake of Allah.lmagine what she did without any countenance and tolerated everything for god.how marium a.s worshipped Allah day and night and remained obedient in every critical situations .how Aisha r.a lived a miserable life,even could not cooked food for three three days but still devotedly herself completely towards Allah and always shows gratefulness towards him.how aasiya wife of pharaoh,left all her luxurious life of palace,for the sake of Allah.remember Zainab ul Ghazali,how struggling her life was.how she was tortured in jail and still remained staunched in her belief.they all devoted their lives towards Allah.they left the desire of this materialistic world and prepared for the life here after.as Allah says,o you who have believed,fear Allah and let every soul look to what it has put forth for tomorrow. Surah hashar

We as Muslim women,should follow the path of these saintly women ,not the path of Hollywood or Bollywood heroines,where we learn only indecency and immodesty.

Next thing is that we women are more ungrateful to our husbands.allah says,truly man is a most ungrateful creature surah hajj

But what makes us ungrateful?it is because we have greed.we get never satisfied whatever Allah gives us.we want more and more .as prophet said,only grave can fulfill the desire of man .means until he lives the life of this world,he wants more and more and never gets satisfied and after death all his greed and desire vanquish.

We women, we are more ungrateful than men. Prophet said, most of the hells inhabitants will be women. Prophet was asked about it and he explained the reason, because of their ingratitude. It was said, are they ungrateful to Allah? He said, they are ungrateful to their companions(husband) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a life time then she sees one undesirable thing in you, she will say, I have never had any thing good from you (al Bukhari)

We actually blame husband for everything bad which befalls on us. But whatever good or bad afflicts us , is from Allah almighty. Listen, all the responsibilities of a woman after marriage fulfills her husband only. If we realize, husbands do great job for us. they do everything for our happiness. WE must be great full to them . Annoying, vexing and never to be thankful to their husbands are the most common features found in most women. And a nagging and complaining wife is rarely happy. She is frequently dissatisfied and always has something to criticise about.

The people who do not do anything for us,we show and give them respect,love,affection but the one (husband) who fulfills our all requirements, we show them ungrateful NES dissatisfaction, unhappiness and angry mood. Prophet said, if I had to command that one man leaned over the other in prostration, then I would, of course, ordered the woman to bow down in front of her husband. Imagine how much respect husband deserves in Islam. Prophet also says, if a woman prays five time namaz , fasts during Ramadan , preserves her chastity, and obeys her husband she will be told, enter paradise through those gates that you want.

Means two things makes her inhabitant of paradise her devotion towards Allah and her obedience to her husband.

Listen, prophet also says, the prayer of two people hardly rise above their heads,it is a run away slave and a disobedient wife.

Muslim wife must be always thankful to Allah and to her husband. In nutshell, we women need only two things to become the inhabitants of paradise that’s complete devotion towards Allah a Nd great full towards our husbands. So add these two things in your life and makes your home a peaceful abode, as you and only you are the homemakers or home breakers.

I will end my topic by quoting this saying of prophet, the first thing a woman is called to account for on the day of judgment are her prayers and her relations with her husband.