WOMEN: DEPRESSED & DISSATISFIED

Now a days from every side we only find one thing, that is depression or anxiety. This is a story of every home; husband, wife, children, all have been consumed by depression. In fact women are becoming more victims to this disease than men.

We are living in a technology age with all types of facilities available, but still dissatisfied with everything available. Women in early times didn’t enjoy modern days facilities then. They remained busy with their domestic work whole day; just cooking and washing clothes were big issues those days. Imagine the hard life we lived then. If it is comfort and facilities that give peace, then why are we dissatisfied with our lives? The fact is facilities or technologies do not bring us peace. We are dissatisfied because of two reasons; we go far away from our religion and we (women) are more ungrateful to our husbands. We invited the depression and lost the peace.

Allah says, “And whoever turns away from my remembrance to him there will be a depressed life”, Al Quran 20, 124. This is the reason in plain words that we need to seriously think about. Prophet SAW says, “I severely dislike that woman who puts her cloak on and leaves the home in order to complain about her husband”, Tabrani. In order to make life peaceful, woman must develop two qualities in her; she should devote herself completely to her creator (Allah) and become grateful towards her husband. These are the two powerful weapons that make our life peaceful and our homes abode of paradise.

It is fact that no one has a completely blissful life without hardships and that Allah doesn’t burden a soul greater than it can bear. This world is test for us and Allah will test us through different things as is clearly mentioned in Quran. It is our duty to stand firm in every situation looking to the greats like Hajra AS, Aisha AS, Mariam AS, Aasiya (wife of Pharaoh) and the likes of Zainab AlGazali and lot more. Hajra AS sacrificed her every desire for the sake of Allah; imagine what she did without any countenance and tolerated everything. Mariam AS worshipped Allah day and night and remained obedient in every critical situation. Aisha RdA lived a tough life, even could not cooked food for three consecutive days but still devotedly herself completely towards Allah and always shows gratefulness towards him. Aasiya remained devoted to Creator in the house of greatest renegade Pharaoh. Zainab AlGhazali was tortured in jail, but still remained committed in her belief true to the commandments of Allah as He says, “O you who have believed, fear Allah and let every soul look to what it has put forth for tomorrow”, Al Hashar. Truly all time inspirations.

Women are usually more ungrateful to husbands. In this case what makes us ungrateful? it is because we have greed; we get never satisfied with whatever Allah gives us, we want more and more as prophet said, only grave can fulfill the desire of man. Women are more ungrateful than men. Prophet SAW said that most of the hells inhabitants will be women. When asked about it, He explained “because of their ingratitude”. It was said, are they ungrateful to Allah? He said, they are ungrateful to their companions (husband) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a life time then she sees one undesirable thing in you, she will say, I have never had anything good from you. (Bukhari)

We women actually blame husband for everything bad which befalls on us. But whatever good or bad afflicts us, is from Allah almighty. All the responsibilities of a woman after marriage fulfill her husband only. If we realize, husbands do great job for us; they do everything for our happiness, so we must be grateful to them. Annoying, vexing and never to be thankful to husbands are the most common features found today.  A nagging and complaining wife is rarely happy. She is frequently dissatisfied, always has something to criticize about and show unhappiness to husband.  Prophet SAW said, if I had to command that one man leaned over the other in prostration, then I would, of course, order the woman to bow down in front of her husband. Imagine how much respect husband deserves in Islam. Prophet also says that if a woman prays five time namaz, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity, and obeys her husband she will be told enter paradise through those gates that she wants.

Women need to focus on complete devotion towards Allah and be grateful towards their husbands. Prophet SAW says that the prayer of two people hardly rise above their heads, it is a runaway slave and a disobedient wife. The first thing a woman is called to account for on the Day of Judgment is her prayers and her relations with her husband.